Well, it’s time to dispell the myths of rejection and turn you into a social man again.  Here are five reasons rejection can actually be healthy for you.

1.  Humility.  Everybody gets rejected.  You only have to do a YouTube search for the show “Digits” to see an attractive, tall Italian model get rejected by more than one woman.  Many men will simply avoid approaching a girl because it might do damage to their over-inflated ego, which tells them they’re big players that can have any woman they want.  A rejection shows you that you can’t have any woman you want, and that’s a good thing, because it will keep you grounded and humble, if you can cut through your own self-perceptions.

2.  Building confidence.  Once you get rejected bad enough, you might say to yourself “Okay, that was bad, but if that’s as bad as it gets, I think I can handle this whole rejection thing.”  Guess what that builds?  You guessed it: confidence.  But there’s something more:  when you approach a woman because you know it’s the thing you want to do, even though it’s tough, helps you realize that you’re willing to confront your fears, which builds your self-esteem even more.

3.  Dispelling the myth.  As mentioned above, once you face rejection head-on, you’ll realize that it’s not that big of a deal, kind of like riding a roller coaster for the first time.  It might even inspire you to keep approaching new women!

4.  Learning experiences.  When you go to bed the night after a rejection, you might notice that something pops into your head, a sudden epiphany like “Oh!  She must have had a boyfriend!  That’s who that guy was,” or “Maybe if I didn’t say that one thing, she might have been into me.”  That’s called learning, and it will help you approach better the next time.

5.  Decreasing your outcome dependence.  If you get rejected bad enough, eventually you might think “Well, if that’s as bad as it will get, I guess I don’t care too much about the outcome!”  You feel looser and more relaxed as a side-effect of being indifferent to the outcome of any given interaction with a woman, which helps your confidence improve.