There’s a fine line between confidence and cockiness, and when you’re on a first date, you don’t want to cross that line.  Even if you’ve got a great job, a great car, and/or a great house, there’s no reason anyone needs to hear about it except through the natural course of conversation.  If you have the temptation to brag on your first date, you’ll want to think again.  Here’s how you do it.

 

First, adhere to one simple rule:  unless she asks about your career, bite your tongue.  If you have an exciting job that really seems to garner the interest of women, that’s fine – but it will come across as manipulative if you try to “force” that fact upon her.  Instead, wait for her to ask about your career.  Start off with something simple, like “I love my job.”  She’ll want to hear more – and you’re not bragging because you’re simply communication your passion about your job.  You could be a janitor and still say “I love my job.”

 

Second, remember that it’s not what you have, but how you have it.  You could be a poor street musician and still intrigue women with the kind of life you lead if you actually have passion for what you do.

 

Many guys with great jobs wonder why their financial success isn’t attracting more women.  It’s simple:  they’re not attracted to your success, they’re attracted to successful men.  There are a lot of ways to define “successful,” but the easiest way is simple:  if you love what you do, you’re successful.  A woman can spot the boredom behind your eyes when you talk about a job you don’t enjoy – even if it pays 250,000 dollars a year.

 

Third, don’t “follow her lead” if she gives you the opportunity to brag.  A woman might throw a few tests your way to see if you’ll start trying to win her affections with the stuff you have rather than what you are.  If you brag, you fail the test.  Why? 

 

Because if you brag to her about what you have, the implication is that it’s the stuff that’s so high-value, not you.

 

You need to be the great thing here.  So if a woman says “Oh, wow, is that your car?” all you need to say is “Yep!  Thanks, I love it.”  That’s it.   As if you’re not impressed by the car, but by how the car makes you feel.

 

Remember, you’re the one who has to make a woman’s experience worthwhile.  So have a little self-respect and keep the bragging to a minimum.  As the old saying goes, a rich man doesn’t have to tell you he’s rich.