Want to make the first date count? Here’s how

 

It’s an all-too familiar situation; you put on your best dress, style your hair just-so and even invest in that designer perfume which promised to make you smell and feel sexier. What’s more, you smile and laugh and make riveting conversation. Yet your first date never seems to progress beyond first base. Are you simply unlucky, or do you just not know something that everyone else does?

 

First things first, this may sound like a clich�, but you are not alone. Many women have dozens of dates which never make it to a second meeting. Often it is simply a case of understanding and accepting that not all girls and guys are made for each other. It doesn’t make you boring or unattractive, don’t take it personally, it just happens. However, there are a few simple things you can do increase your chances of being asked out on a second date and to make sure that you don’t scare your date off during the first meeting.

 

Don’t appear too eager

 

There is a fine line between going over the top and giving the right impression where your appearance is concerned. It should really go without saying that you should try to look your best on the first date but many women get this part sadly wrong by holding back in fear of giving out the wrong signals. True, you should avoid wearing clothes that are overly seductive or revealing but wearing something that helps you to make the best of yourself and feel comfortable will do wonders for your confidence as well as making your date feel as if he was worthy of your time.

 

Make an effort

 

A great number of women still feel that they should be seen and not heard on the first date. Wrong move. Men like women who can take part in engaging conversation so let your personality shine. If you are the shy type, psyche yourself up for this ahead of time, even if you don’t feel up to initiating conversation at least try to answer any questions that are thrown your way enthusiastically.

 

Leave past history where it belongs, in the past

 

A sure date-killer is to go into a detailed lengthy tirade about past relationships and boyfriends. Do yourself a favour; don’t! Try to view a first date with a man as a new start and a fresh opportunity. If there are things you need to get out in the open, most of them can wait until you are further into forming a relationship; for now, keep it light.

 

Listen

 

Most women are so anxious to appear interesting and fun that they forget to listen to their date. When you take the time to slow down and listen to somebody, it makes them feel special and important. A man is much more likelier to be attracted to a woman who makes him feel good about himself so your body language should be open and attentive with lots of eye contact and questions at appropriate stages.

 

Most importantly, remember to relax and enjoy yourself as this will automatically bring out the best in you. Tell yourself that you have absolutely nothing to lose, even if this date doesn’t go as planned, think of it as good practice for all those future dates.