You’ve been on endless dates with a staggering number of women, you’ve been charming, witty and have made every effort to look your best and make every date special. Yet despite giving it your all you are still single. Is it just that you haven’t met that special woman or are you doing something to scare the girls away? To help you see where you might be going wrong, we list some of the top reasons that put a girl off a guy. Pay attention and you will discover how to attract women.

1. Not being yourself

Don’t be fooled, women are cleverer than you may think. One thing that definitely won’t get past a  girl is when a guy is acting out a role and adopting a personality that isn’t really his. You may think you an expert at this but the telltale cracks will show after a while. Even if you don’t think you are a very exciting person, a girl may feel very differently. Remember, true confidence only comes about if a person is at ease with themselves so you are really selling yourself short if you only show her what you think she wants to see of you.

2. Being too much of a Nice Guy

There is a difference between being courteous and pleasant or simply just killing her with kindness.  If you act like a doormat, she will treat you like one and walk all over you and out of the door. This is not a licence to act the Bad Boy role and treat her poorly but just a warning to avoid pandering to her every whim and being taken for granted. Make it clear to her that you respect yourself and she will automatically value you more.

3. Not paying attention

Every woman knows that guys don’t listen, right? Well its not just missing the verbal cues that get up a girl’s nose, its when a man fails to notice and react to visual and physical elements too, e.g. failing to comment on a new hairstyle or not registering that it is raining outside and she doesn’t have a ride home. Lack of attention towards her will make a woman feel as though you don’t value her, hence making her much less likely to want to make you a permanent fixture in her life.

4. Showing possessive or controlling behaviours

If you want to lose your girlfriend, trying to change her and take over her life is a guaranteed way of ensuring just that. Women are put off by such behaviour because it implies that the man doesn’t feel they are good enough and wants them to mould around a particular set of criteria that they have in their own minds. So try to accept her as she is and maybe she will show you the same courtesy.