1. Not being yourself

Don’t be fooled, women are cleverer than you may think. One thing that definitely won’t get past a  girl is when a guy is acting out a role and adopting a personality that isn’t really his. You may think you an expert at this but the telltale cracks will show after a while. Even if you don’t think you are a very exciting person, a girl may feel very differently. Remember, true confidence only comes about if a person is at ease with themselves so you are really selling yourself short if you only show her what you think she wants to see of you.

2. Being too much of a Nice Guy

There is a difference between being courteous and pleasant or simply just killing her with kindness.  If you act like a doormat, she will treat you like one and walk all over you and out of the door. This is not a licence to act the Bad Boy role and treat her poorly but just a warning to avoid pandering to her every whim and being taken for granted. Make it clear to her that you respect yourself and she will automatically value you more.

3. Not paying attention

Every woman knows that guys don’t listen, right? Well its not just missing the verbal cues that get up a girl’s nose, its when a man fails to notice and react to visual and physical elements too, e.g. failing to comment on a new hairstyle or not registering that it is raining outside and she doesn’t have a ride home. Lack of attention towards her will make a woman feel as though you don’t value her, hence making her much less likely to want to make you a permanent fixture in her life.

4. Showing possessive or controlling behaviours

If you want to lose your girlfriend, trying to change her and take over her life is a guaranteed way of ensuring just that. Women are put off by such behaviour because it implies that the man doesn’t feel they are good enough and wants them to mould around a particular set of criteria that they have in their own minds. So try to accept her as she is and maybe she will show you the same courtesy.

1. Appeal to his subconscious senses

The most powerful of the subconscious senses is that of smell and many studies have shown the huge part it plays, on a subliminal level, in determining if a man is attracted to a woman. This most definitely isn’t a license to turn up to a date reeking of a perfume factory, instead create a sense of intrigue by keeping your fragrance light. A good way to avoid going over the top is to spray a mist of perfume in front of yourself and walk through it.

2. Pay attention to your posture

Slumping takes inches off your height, adds years to your apparent age and is a sure-fire way of killing even the most sophisticated outfit. What is more, somebody who slouches is more likely to give off the signals of lacking confidence in themselves or, worse still, not being interested in their dating partner. Although you don’t want to look like you are bent backwards over a barrel, paying heed to Mother’s wise words and holding your head high and your shoulders well back will do wonders for your attractiveness.

3. Go for the wide-awake look

Subconsciously, a woman who looks fresh and revitalised is perceived by males as being more healthier and thus more attractive as a potential mate. It is easy to perk up your look by using a gentle exfoliating face wash just before you apply your makeup ready for your date. Lining the inner rims of your eyelids with a white eyeliner is a fantastic way opening them up and applying a pearly white eye-shadow just under your eyebrows completes the effect.

4. Get your circulation going

Going for a run or a brisk walk prior to your date is a great way of not only looking great but feeling good too. A good burst of exercise will be guaranteed to give you a healthy glow and have you looking bright eyed and bushy tailed. Working out also releases endorphins which are the body’s natural feel-good hormones so you are likelier to feel more attractive and rejuvenated. A word of warning however, don’t over-do it and leave yourself plenty of time to take a shower; going for the sweaty look won‘t do you any favours at all.

“Being on your path” means a lot of things, which is why it deserves its own article. It often helps to get away from the “outer behavior” involved with dating success and examine how you can work on your own self-improvement to attract women naturally. Want to learn? I thought you’d never ask. Here’s a portrait of the man on his path.

He has passion for what he does – even if he cleans toilets.

When you meet a new woman, you’ll inevitably run a the familiar question: “So, what do you do?” Here’s an important concept to learn: how you answer this is more important than what you answer with.

A man who has passion for what he does loves this question. His eyes light up because he gets to talk about his ambition, his goals, the personal empire he’s building. Even if he’s talking about how he’s working to become the head manager at a freaking Burger King, if there’s fire behind his eyes, there’s something thrilling about the way he lives his life.

Contrast to the answer of a man who is making compromises in his life. “Well, I work in IT right now. I re-write programming for this big client of ours.” Nothing against IT – heck, if you have passion, it can be great – but when your answer to “what do you do?” shows no ambition and no passion in your life, you’re not on your path.

Women want the passion, not the bucks.

He knows where he’s going.

A man on his path is a man that women meet in mid-story.

When you’re on your path, you know it. You know how hard you worked today. You know what results you’ve created for yourself. You know exactly what you’re working for. And when women talk to you, they can sense this.

What sounds more appealing: meeting the protagonist of a story in the middle of his adventures, or meeting one of the secondary characters without a last name? When you have passion in your life, you move yourself to “protagonist” and women can smell this.

Women want to hear the story that gives you passion. Talk about where you want to travel, what excites you, and why you’re on the path that you’re on. Don’t do it to brag, mind you; only talk about it when she’s truly interested.

He makes himself a priority.

If you’re the protagonist in your story, it goes without saying that you are the priority in your life. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be giving and compassionate – far from it. It just means that you have tremendous respect for your time and let the world know you expect to be treated in a certain way.

How do you let customer service people treat you? How do you let co-workers, employees, and employers treat you? Your personal boundaries need to be clear and you need to enforce them. You can make time for people, but you also need to make time for yourself.

He knows what he’s looking for in a woman.

It’s been called the “pre-screening vibe.” It’s the vibe a man gives off when he’s looking for a certain type of woman.

Women can tell when you’re a “predator”-type guy, scanning the faces in a bar or restaurant in the hope that you’ll find someone of value. This can be annoying.

If you know what you’re looking for in a woman, simply don’t go after women who aren’t your type, no questions asked. Women will respect this and feel good once they’ve earned your affection.

Let’s get practical. Here are a few tips for becoming a man who’s on his path.

• Set a goal – one that you’re really passionate about. Saying “I want $10,000 in the bank” isn’t enough. How will you achieve that $10,000 – will you be doing something you love?
• Work on your goal all the time, at least an hour a day. Even if you’re a working stiff, that doesn’t mean you can’t work to achieve your goal. Is your passion physical fitness? Work out at least an hour a day, or the amount of time you see fit that really challenges you.
• Challenge yourself. Passion without challenge isn’t exactly passion, is it? If you want to get in shape, really work yourself hard. If you want to build a business, work at it and go big. Work hard, and you’ll feel your passion intensify and your self-esteem grow.